The Story Behind the Marriage of Mary Ann and Rommel Maslog

We often stay in relationships that aren’t healthy for us. Sometimes emotionally abusive or physically abusive. Many women live everyday in unhealthy relationships because of many reasons. Some women are afraid to leave, some are telling theirselves it’s their own fault, and some just plain out believe that nothing is wrong with the relationship. Many women are brainwashed to believe that a marriage is suppose to work a certain way. No two marriages are the same, but no marriage should have any kind of abuse in it. In this series of blog , I will share my heart, my life , my mind and my experience to everyone.
Many asked…What happened to the fairy tale marriage of Mary Ann and Rommel Maslog?..Who’s to blame?..Why?..
There was NEVER A FAIRY TALE, THERE WAS ONLY A MARRIAGE!
June 1992, I worked as a Medical Representative for Dispo Philippines. I was assigned in Davao City. Six Months (6) months after, I was promoted as the Assistant District Sales Manager for Butuan City. December of 1992, was when I met Rommel Maslog. He was one of my Sales Representative. Since Butuan was a new Branch Office, we only have a sattelite office. So every week, Saturday to be specific, we would travel to Cagayan de Oro City and conduct our reporting. Since Butuan Branch was a small Branch, consisted of 5 employees including me, we tend to be together all the time. All of us would have breakfast together, had lunch if I worked with my reps, and dine out together.. As a manager, I became not only my sales reps adviser, but I also became very close to them..With Rommel, in fact, too close for comfort which was my biggest mistake..He was so nice, charming person, a good looking too.. I fall for it..
One day, I woke up and realized, I was in love with one of my Sales Representative, which was a No-No to the company.. When Rommel and I started our relationship, he told me ,we should kept it to ourselves..We did not want to loose our job, that was what he told me. So, I believed him since it was a company policy..
Every Saturday, all of us would go to Cagayan de Oro, and we would stay in the pad or apartment of another manager of Cagayan de Oro.. Her name was Cynthia..Over the weekends, Rommel and I would always just act as friends, manager and Rep relationship, no more no less.. In the course of our relationship, I gave him more responsibility than others..I would help him out with his sales, than others.. Of course, I was in love.. To me, He was the best..
There were weeekends when I was not able to go to Cagayan, then, he would say, he would do it for me and bring all my repiorts to Cagayan.. He said, he would rather be tired, than seeing me, tired.. I really believed it HOOK, LINE and SINKER!
Well, as a woman, I was ready to give up my career for him so that he would become the manager.. I told him, I would recommend him as the manager and I would resigned so that we could move on with our life.. I said , I could find another job , easy..He agreed, as long as , when I resigned nobody would know the reason why.. He said, my office mates would know in the future, WHEN WE GET MARRIED.. That day, He offered me marriage!.. I was ecstatic!! This was the happiest day of my life but, I couldn’t share it with anybody!.Because He told me not too..
For few weeks, I kept it to myself.. I never shared it to anybody not even to Cynthia, who became my Best friend then.. On my last day at work, I had lunch with Cynthia.. I still could remember that day.. Cynthia, asked me many times, during lunch why I was giving up my career.. I just smilled.. She kept on and on and on.. Until, I could not resist anymore!!.. I was bursting with Happiness!!.. I needed to share this with someone!..So, I told her, I would share to her a secret, in one condition, that she would not share this to anybody..
Of course, Cynthia, promised she would never share it to anybody and she said, she also had a secret and she would share it with me..So, we made a promise not to tell anybody our secrets!!
I shared first my secret.. I told her, Rommel and I have been going out for months and he offered me MARRIAGE!!.. I saw the shocked in her eyes, and the first words she said was..YOU CAN’T MARRY HIM!!..I said, WHAT???..and she started crying!!!..
How can this be?? The person that I thought who was my friend, And who would be happy for me, was just totally devastated!! In my mind, I said, SHE IS SELFISH!!How can she not be HAPPY FOR ME??
Then, in between sobs, she told me, ” You can’t marry Rommel!, because He is my boyfirend! “..I WAS SHOCKED!! All I could say, was ” YOU’RE LYING, CYNTHIA, YOU’RE A LIAR!!..I took off and called up Rommel.. I was CRYING!
I told Rommel what Cynthia told me, and he said NOT TO BELIEVE HER AND THAT SHE WAS MAKING UP A STORY BECAUSE HE KNEW THAT CYNTHIA WAS IN LOVE WITH HIM..HE TOLD ME NOT TO TALKED TO CYNTHIA AND NOT TO BELIEVED HER..HE EVEN TOLD ME THAT THERE WAS A TIME THAT CYNTHIA TOOK ADVANTAGE OF HIM AND BECAUSE OF ME , HE SAID NO TO HER!
Stupid me!, I believed Rommel.. I never called Cynthia back.. Never invited her on my wedding day!.. I found out few weeks after, that Rommel never got the PROMOTION and THAT HE SAID CYNTHIA GAVE HIM A HARD TIME AND HE WAS RESIGNING!!He said, he would rather be jobless that let Cynthia come between US!..
Wasn’t that SWEET!.. I told myself, I have one heck of a man!
Looking back, I should have listen to Cynthia. My life would have been better!.. A year after my marriage to Rommel, he had his first MARITAL AFFAIR!. But, that story will come later..
I wa stupid!!!.. few years after, I saw Cynthia, She got married and she told me, thank you!.. I asked her for what?.. She said, “FOR NOT BELIEVEING IN ME, Because if you did, I WOULDNT HAVE MET MY HUSBAND”
To me, I felt that was more than a slapped to me face.. I can’t allow my marriage to fail!.. I PROMISED MYSELF, THEN, THAT I WILL DO ANYTHING TO MAKE MY MARRIAGE WORK..And I will PROVE TO CYNTHIA THAT I DID NOT MAKE THE WRONG DECISION!.. I PROMISED MYSELF, I WILL PROVE CYNTHIA WRONG!!
That was the beginning of my CALVARY IN LIFE!..